Online Hook Ups – For many people, being part of an adult social network like this site allows them to explore things they either have not had the opportunity to in real life, or things they haven’t the nerve to try in real life. Looking for play online is often a fact of life when either one has no partner at all, or when the partner they do have is not as sexual a person as they are and they are needing to fulfill a need not being met by their partner.
Masturbation Cyber Style – Some people look at it as cheating, others not. Many couples are very open and seek online fun together, either alone by themselves, or together to spice things up. Being friendly online to some is just a much safer way of playing around with no risk of disease. Even if I had a partner, and they were ok with my playing around online, I’d prefer to keep that to myself. It’s private and my own little naughty, harmless secret, I wouldn’t want to make that part of my couple life. The need for variety is great and if they too were playing online with others, I wouldn’t want to know about it at all. Ever.
Help Me Get Off – Most people that phone, cam, cyber together will never, ever really meet. Of course there are exceptions, but mostly it’s not a worry. So for a partner to take that need for variety as a threat to their relationship is groundless most of the time. It’s occasional escapism with a sexual twist, and that’s how they need to view it, nothing more, nothing less. Now if a partner was camming every night for 3 hours or something and taking away from their relationship time, then that is an addictive behavior, but if it’s in moderation, say a few times a week, then I’d say it’s a fun excursion in their sexual life with no need to worry about it.
Introduce Yourself – The importance of profile pages on an adult community website cannot be underestimated. If someone can’t even be bothered to upload an avatar, the chances they will fill out an interesting profile are not great either.
What Are You Looking For – This is your “resume” for the naughty world, listing your personal likes and dislikes and what exactly you are looking for on a site like this. People cannot read minds, they need to know what you are looking for to see if they are a match for your interests. You get out of a site like this what you put into it. If you have a detailed, interesting profile, some pictures, not even ones of yourself, but things you find of interest, participate in the forums and chat rooms, messaging others, if you put forth effort, you will likely find fun and entertainment there given enough hunting. If you create a username and have one sentence on your page, if that, what can you expect?
Let Your Personality Shine – Personalization, links to songs you like on Youtube, entertaining poems etc. Let people know about you and what you’re like. It’s like an online room of yours to decorate to show off your tastes. Make it inviting, share something different about yourself ones might not expect, something that will make you and your profile stand out. It’s online, it’s usually fairly anonymous, this isn’t Facebook, your boss and mom are not reading it, so I personally find you can be even more yourself than if everyone knew it was you. I don’t understand why ones feel the need to lie online. I find it much easier to be my real, true self. Feeling free to say things I’d never have the nerve to face to face. Be yourself, be real, don’t use your real pics if that’s not something you’re comfortable with, but put forth some effort and find what you seek.
Knock Knock – Lack of privacy for masturbation in a shared environment is something many people have to deal with on a regular basis. Often when one goes away to college and has a roommate for the first time this can prove troublesome. I used to mercilessly tease someone I chatted with that was going away to college as this was a real concern of his. I told him he’d be out walking looking for back alleys to jerk off behind dumpsters to get some privacy. He freaked out when I said his roommate was doing it as he slept in the bed next to him. It was so fun to tease and play on his worries!
Are You Alone – One I phoned with used to go out in his car, another went into a closet that still lived at home. I used to tell the one in the car, he’d drive out to the woods, I told him one night he was going to get his car stuck out there and was going to have to call a tow truck and how embarrassing it would be to explain what he’d been doing out there at 3 AM! I told him shortly after meeting his new roommate, they just be matter of fact about the matter and sit down calmly and create an “alone time” masturbation schedule. He was mortified, and I was laughing at his discomfort. Luckily I have never had a roommate to contend with, but joking aside, it is a problem. Many I have wanted to phone with were paranoid roommates might hear them talking, or they would only do it when the roommate were out of the shared quarters entirely.
Is Someone Watching – This is a real concern to many going away to college for the first time. The thought of being caught if someone walks in on them, there are some very funny real life tales online of experiences like this, getting caught masturbating, funny now but not at the time.
Look At This – Something many look for at an adult chat site is a partner for cam sex, otherwise known as cam to cam, or c2c. Guys are not only very visual by nature, but I am convinced most have an exhibitionist streak by default. I cannot count the number of guys that ask me daily if I would like to watch them perform on cam for me. Many also ask if I’d like to cam with them, as in show myself as I masturbate at the same time. It’s just not for me, so I decline.
Free Cam Sex – I have spoken to a number of guys that have been blackmailed after cam sex shows they gave or that there has been an attempt at blackmail if the guys show their face or if they have their real name on their Yahoo or Skype. I jokingly said they should wear a mask like Zorro to conceal their face, but if you don’t know someone, I’d suggest setting up a Yahoo of Skype account under a dummy name so your actual name isn’t revealed. Most times you don’t need to worry about people doing something crazy, but it only takes one nut to ruin a lot.
Watch Me Masturbate – The excitement of watching another masturbate as you do yourself for some is extremely arousing, close-ups of dripping cocks and pussies and shooting cum for many proves irresistible and they want to watch and be seen. Many guys also enjoy masturbating with other guys and are not always seeking a female to get off with on cam. There is something to be said for variety for sure. If you are comfortable with your body and like to show off, maybe cam sex is just the ticket for you to spice up your masturbation routine.
Voice Your Opinions – Many adult chat sites also offer adult forums for the site users to ask questions and answer them in. Forums make asking and answering fun and fresh for people. You’d likely be too embarrassed to ask or answer some questions in your real life with people that know your real identity, but adult chat sites for a great many users are private. They do not always use their own pictures, so they are safe behind their online identity they have created without fear of ones in their life knowing they are on a site like that.
What Have You To Say – Many fun and entertaining questions can be asked and answered in forums under every topic under the sun. People can ask website related questions and get answers from the site owners as to what is happening. Announcements can be made like a bulletin board of sorts, forums serve all sorts of useful purposes on a website. A true adult community benefits from a well put together and varied forum. The exchange of ideas and useful answers, as well as entertaining and silly ones, can be a must have addition to any adult community website.
What Do You Think Of That – Website owners that care about their sites monitor forum posts daily to see what users are happy or unhappy with. A user driven site must keep those users happy to keep coming back. If they realize a site is run by an owner and mods that don’t seem to care, or listen to their ideas, why should they themselves care? Forums are like an online town hall meeting, a place for everyone to exchange ideas to make the site better and useful for everyone involved.
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