I Don’t Like This – What do you do when a fantasy has gone too far? Let’s say you’ve been acting out all the fantasies your partner has requested. They’ve wanted you to dress up like a seedy prostitute and do the whole role playing thing. That was fun. Now your partner wants to introduce an actual prostitute into your love making. How do you tell your partner that you’re not willing do to that? There are many other fantasies that can be taken too far.
A Step Too Far – A woman may want to strap on a dildo and pretend to have gay sex with her man. What happens if she ends up wanting to watch her partner having sex with another man? Your partner may not realize their fantasy is being taken to an extreme. They may also think that you’re wanting to take things to the next level. Don’t allow yourself to feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to. Sex should be fun and exciting. The second that it becomes uncomfortable is the time to back away. You should never feel uncomfortable having sex with someone you trust. If you do, it’s time to put a stop to whatever is going on.
No Means No – How do you tell your partner that the fantasy has gone too far? You’re just going to have to be blunt about it. Beating around the bush won’t make them feel like you’re serious. You need to be very straight forward and say exactly what you’re thinking. Anything less will give them the impression that you may want to do it at a later date. Make sure there’s no room for confusion. Lay it all out for them as plain of a manner as you can. This will let your partner know there are boundaries in your relationship that can’t be crossed. This is healthy and such boundaries should be expected in every relationship.
This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, Random Writer.
Not Tonight – Handling rejection in the bedroom can be a difficult thing. Men often take it personally when a woman tells them they dont want to try something new. Neither party should take it personally when the other doesnt want to have a new experience. The other person may very well be nervous about the idea. Maybe they really do want to try anal sex. But, theyre just a little too freaked out about it to actually do it.
Please, Can We Do It? – You first need to understand why your partner said no. Its possible their “no” wasnt exactly what it sounded like it. It very well could be that they either arent ready or they arent in the mood right now. What do you do if your partner flat out says no? The first thing you dont do is freak out. You should figure out why theyre saying no to begin with. If it really is no and they have no interest, drop it. Dont beg or put on some kind of show. Just deal with the fact that they dont want to try something. You can hope that some day maybe theyll change their mind. If they dont, then move on.
No Means No – Dont be one of these people that keep begging and being an asshole. Take no for what it means and find something that theyll be up for. Boundaries are important in the bedroom. Its also important that your partner know that you respect their boundaries. Without this respect a relationship cant survive and thrive.
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