I Don’t Like This – What do you do when a fantasy has gone too far? Let’s say you’ve been acting out all the fantasies your partner has requested. They’ve wanted you to dress up like a seedy prostitute and do the whole role playing thing. That was fun. Now your partner wants to introduce an actual prostitute into your love making. How do you tell your partner that you’re not willing do to that? There are many other fantasies that can be taken too far.
A Step Too Far – A woman may want to strap on a dildo and pretend to have gay sex with her man. What happens if she ends up wanting to watch her partner having sex with another man? Your partner may not realize their fantasy is being taken to an extreme. They may also think that you’re wanting to take things to the next level. Don’t allow yourself to feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to. Sex should be fun and exciting. The second that it becomes uncomfortable is the time to back away. You should never feel uncomfortable having sex with someone you trust. If you do, it’s time to put a stop to whatever is going on.
No Means No – How do you tell your partner that the fantasy has gone too far? You’re just going to have to be blunt about it. Beating around the bush won’t make them feel like you’re serious. You need to be very straight forward and say exactly what you’re thinking. Anything less will give them the impression that you may want to do it at a later date. Make sure there’s no room for confusion. Lay it all out for them as plain of a manner as you can. This will let your partner know there are boundaries in your relationship that can’t be crossed. This is healthy and such boundaries should be expected in every relationship.
This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, Random Writer.
From Fantasy To Reality – The importance of living out fantasies can’t be overstated. It’s the very thing that keeps your sex life exciting. It can be easy for sex to become dull and boring. Anyone that’s been with a partner for more than a few months knows that this is the case. It’s why you’re going to want to find new ways to keep everything fresh. A long lasting relationship can only be so if the sex is great. It’s when sex becomes dull and boring that people step outside of the relationship. This is the real danger of allowing your sex life to become dull. Both men and women have sexual needs and often times they’ll do whatever it takes to get them met. Even if it means being in the arms of someone else.
Be Direct About What You Want – The first thing you need to do when living out your fantasies is to communicate them. This means you’re going to need an open line of communication with your partner. You’re both adults and should be able to talk about sex. There’s no need to sugar coat things. Being open and blunt about your fantasies will only ensure that you actually get to live them out. Having to tell your partner what you want in some kind of code will only make it next to impossible to achieve.
Try Some Costumes – Allow yourself to be creative when it comes to your fantasies. Don’t be afraid to act out roles and even wear costumes. It’s not out of the question to wear wigs or even fake tattoos. The sky is the limit when it comes to what you can live out. That’s as long as you’re creative and allow each other to be honest when communicating what your sexual fantasies are. Don’t be shy and always tell your partner when you’ve got a new fantasy. You never know, they may be as excited as you are after hearing about it.
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