Doable Fantasies – Don’t let porn videos or romance novels make your fantasies impossible. It can be way too easy to let that happen. You’re not even going to realize it. This is the problem with subjecting yourself to too much erotic material. Tame down your fantasies. Make sure they’re realistic. Just because you see or read something doesn’t mean you can do it.
Fantasy To Reality – How do you know if your fantasies aren’t realistic? Are you living them out? If not, then you need to dial it back a little. You can easily feel like a let down if your fantasies aren’t doable. You’ll feel like you aren’t achieving your sexual goals. This will have a negative impact on your sex life. Now you see why it’s important to have realistic fantasies. None of this means you shouldn’t shoot for the stars when it comes to your fantasies. You can always have one that’s almost unreachable. Just keep most of them realistic. Everyone knows the limits of their relationship. There’s no need to set the bar so high you can’t reach it. Instead, develop realistic fantasies that are within reach.
Hot Scenarios – Fantasies are extremely important. They allow you to be creative in the sack. A fantasy is a sexual dream that can come true. It can if you make them reasonable. A realistic fantasy is one where you can envision yourself living out. If you can’t, then it’s time to go back to the drawing board. There’s nothing wrong with modifying your fantasies to fit the real world. Actually, it’s quite logical.
Dress You Up – You’re in a strange position that you never thought you’d be in. Your partner wants you to dress up as someone of the opposite sex. Should you be alarmed that they’re having homosexual fantasies? The quick answer is no. The truth is, they may not be having homosexual fantasies at all. They just want to do a little role playing. They may want to see you wearing something different. It could be something as simple as that.
Role Playing – Can it harm your relationship to live out gender bending fantasies? No. Actually, you might find your relationship stronger afterwards. Your partner will feel that they can come to you with any fantasy that they have. No matter how strange it may seem at the time. It very well could be a phase they’re going through. Living out the fantasy may get it out of their system and you can then move onto something else. The only caveat to all this is if you notice your partner watching a lot of homosexual porn. You may even notice them paying close attention to people of the same sex while out and about. If this is the case, it very well could be more than just a fantasy.
What Are The Risks? – The only real danger of this sort of thing is adultery. The risk of heartache and disease is real when people stray away from their relationship. As long as adultery isn’t in the mix, gender bending fantasies are okay. In fact, they’re quite healthy. You might as well put on a fake mustache and go down on your man. There’s no reason why he can’t put on a bra or wear some high heel shoes. If nothing else, the two of you very well could get a laugh out of it.
Trying Something New – You’ve got a new fantasy that you want to live out. There’s just one thing getting in the way of you living out that fantasy. That one thing is your partner. It’s not uncommon for people to stumble upon strange things these days. You may discover something totally new at a porn site or, it may just come to you out of the blue. What one person calls strange in the sack another may think is normal. Strange is a relative term and there’s no way to determine what is or what isn’t. You know your partner and what they will probably think of as being strange. You more than likely also know what they’re willing to do in the sack.
Open To New Ideas – It’s those pesky gray areas that are difficult to navigate. How do you break it to your partner that you want to try something out of the ordinary? The best way is to do so as plainly as possible. You don’t want to present it in a way that scares them. You may even bring along a visual aid or two to help describe what your new found fantasy is. Always try to present things in a way that doesn’t seem too foreign. People will more than likely say no if they find whatever it is that you want to do as being too strange. Your likelihood of living out the fantasy depends mostly on presentation.
Combating Boredom – Spicing up what happens in the bedroom is a great way to prevent boredom. Being bored sexually can have as negative of an impact as not having sex frequently enough. Arousal is key to feeling sexually happy and fulfilled. Don’t be shy when it comes to telling your partner about your newly discovered fantasy. Living them out will increase your bond and strengthen the relationship as a whole.
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The Boss and the Secretary – As one of many roleplays where one person has the power under which the other becomes utterly helpless, this is a great introduction to bondage.
The Hitchhiker – Let go of your inhibitions and take your role play fantasies out of the house with this naughty classic that combines the excitement of car sex and the added risk of picking up a total stranger.
Teacher and Pupil – Another classic that is especially good, as it allows the two of you to reverse the roles whenever and however often you want.
Home Delivery – Something’s wrong with your Internet connection, there’s a light bulb that needs changing that’s just out of reach, or maybe sabotaging your electrical appliances has left you hungry for a little bit more than what the pizza delivery guy has got in his box.
Man/Maid Action – The man of the house needs help keeping his place ship-shape, so who better to call than the local French maid cleaning service?
Playing Doctors and Nurses – We know this scenario is a little cliché and far from an original role play idea, but there’s a reason why it’s such a time-honored favorite. And that reason is: because sexy nurses and dashing doctors are awesome.
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We do hope you enjoyed this informative, helpful and interesting 4 part series that eric60red was kind enough to have contributed to our site blog. We have no doubt many of the ideas and suggestions herein can be put to good and naughty use in your cyber sex roleplay sessions! Have fun, and be creative! We just know there’s someone here for you in the chat rooms or forums looking for a fun partner to masturbate with.
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This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, eric60red
Costumes Can Enhance Roleplay – Now that you have an understanding of what sexual role-playing is, you will need to make up your mind what kind you are happy with. A few examples, Romantic, Kinky, BDSM, Bondage, Younger with Older, Uniforms, Fantasy, the list is almost endless. Sexual desire is as diverse as it is personal, and sometimes we don’t find it easy to share our most intimate thoughts, with the people closest to us, but a person in a chat room a stranger can become an erotic experience.
Secret Desires Fulfilled – We use a variety of methods to overcome these inhibitions and now more and more couples are getting started with sexual role play as a means to take on a different persona and explore their lesser-expressed fantasies. On the internet, in a chat room like Climax Connection, or one of the popular messenger services, one can fulfill a desire or fantasy.
Steamy Scenarios – Sexual role play is not a new idea, but it is a good one and as such, many sensual scenarios have been created, explored and ultimately shared. Some use photos, to help with descriptions, others use the words to describe the role. Online many get very sexually aroused and masturbate to climax, as the play gets hotter and hotter. The possibilities are endless and only as good as your imagination, so if being somebody else in the name of sexual self-discovery sounds appealing to you, or sitting in front of your computer and using your own mind here are a few simple ideas just to get you started.
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