Tell Me You Love Me – People look for different sorts of interactions when they look online for fun partners. Most are just looking for a fun, good and casual time. Many are happy with one time encounters, like horny ships passing in the night. Others are looking for longer term pairings, where if they are horny they can go back to one another again and again, some such pairings can literally last for years. I was a bit shocked when recently my longest term phone partner of 5 years said I’d been in his life longer than any real life girlfriend he’d had.
I Want You – Some partners for phone sex, cyber sex or cam sex can get involved in each others lives to a degree, others are more secretive and without much real life info from their online partners. Worried about privacy or stalkers or any number of things infringing on their offline life. It can be awkward when one starts to feel more deeply than the other one does and in fact they can fall in love with their online partner. I’d heard many times about the “girlfriend experience”, but one said recently some girls were seeking a “boyfriend experience”. They want an online boyfriend to be there for them, tell them they love them, and sometimes seek offline real encounters as well, and sad to say most guys are only seeking online fun, and are not looking to carry things over into real life.
Online Better Than Real – Many times what we see online is the best of someone, the sexy, adorable side of someone and we grow to fall for them and idealize them. We don’t know what they are really like in their day to day life, we only know what they have chosen to reveal to us, and when all we see is the good and sexy part, it’s not that hard to fall for some of them. Sadly, some of us get hurt in such a situation. Some guys can get scared and flee when an online girl they play with gets “clingy”. I’ve heard this many times from guys. Many guys enjoy bringing an element of realism into especially phone sex play and talk about real life meetings, “Oh wouldn’t it be hot…”, yet when you buy into it and agree to go along, boy do some of them run scared. It’s cruel to lead someone on. Many girls and ladies are emotional sorts and can indeed fall for the online Casanova’s out there and get hurt when things don’t progress as we’d like them to.
Please Don’t Hurt Me – So what do you do when one of your online fun partners gets more serious about you than you are about them or vice versa? It’s not a pleasant situation and I’ve been on both sides of this. Cam, phone sex and cybering are all important activities to the ones involved in them. Guys, and I assume gals, fall into different categories in our online play. Some are fun, like friends we play with, joke around with, but it never gets serious.
I Love You So Much – Friends like these though, it never gets intense and intensity, to some of us anyway, can be like that hit of heroin. Intensity is what makes us feel alive and crave more. Some partners can be like this, even ones that can be total nut jobs we’re better staying away from, they have a pull, a draw, and we can’t get enough. It’s a sad thing when one of you feels more deeply about the other, someone is bound to get hurt. Some want to meet in real life and when the other one doesn’t want to, you can feel very hurt and rejected by this person that has come to mean so much to you, and to them sadly they just view you as an online fun partner and nothing more.
It Felt So Real – I always remember one guy I chatted with that said he never phoned with a girl more than once because he “didn’t want them falling in love with him.” I recall laughing so hard thinking what a high opinion he had of himself to come to this bizarre way of thinking. Obviously he and many others wish to avoid drama, and emotional messiness which can sometimes result when feelings become involved. It is very, very cruel to ever lead anyone on and make them believe in any way something real and offline can result if you do not indeed feel that way, and several people I’ve known like to heighten things and make it seem like a possibility when in fact it’s just adding a further dimension of enjoyment to make it seem real.
You Broke My Heart – The more vulnerable party gets very badly emotionally crushed as a result. Be careful when someone hands you their heart. And sadly when things like this happen, and one gets hurt, you often lose the best masturbation partner you ever had because it can’t ever go back to being how it was before. The one doing the heartbreaking often feels badly they’ve hurt the other person, and the one pining away often feels so rejected and foolish they can’t enjoy the other person anymore.
So Many Miles Apart – What are people to do if they meet online and they live far apart from each other? Sometimes things can start innocently enough. You find someone to have phone sex, cyber sex or cam sex with and then it can evolve and real feelings develop. If all you are seeking is a casual weekend or a week long hookup, I guess you could always meet on vacation or something, but long distance relationships that develop can be hard on both people.
Don’t Measure The Distance, Measure The Love – One will be expected to uproot their life for the other and many times that will cause a resentment. Some may have no problem going any which way the wind blows and picking their lives up, but for others, it’s just not a consideration. The longing you can feel when you make such an online love connection can be intense and bittersweet, to know their life is there and yours is here and never the two shall meet. If only…….Ones that live nearby can be of no interest and ones far away can make it seem as though the sun rises and sets on them.
Love Across The World – Especially after sharing so many intimacies over the phone or on cam, you can really develop feelings for someone and it’s hard to come to terms with the fact that in reality that is all it will likely ever be. It can go on for years and that will still be all there ever really is between you. There is a saying, “A bird and a fish can fall in love, but where will they live?” I guess in today’s world a lot of people do uproot their lives for another person. It’s unthinkable for some though. So you either resign yourself to regular journeys to stay with each other for short periods or change your life drastically.
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