I’ve Got A Secret – The importance of fantasy in our lives is fairly sizeable for some people. Things that they think about in their private moments that they know they likely would never be able to actually live out. Sexual fantasies about celebrities, family members, all sorts of scenarios that will never get to actually happen.
From Mild To Wild – When we find someone we are comfortable with and can share our deepest, darkest fantasy with, we truly feel a kindred spirit. Most times even our partners are holding back, they won’t totally let their guard down. Some things are just too private to share with anyone, we worry our darkest selves would be rejected. They say true love is when you can expose those darkest sides to someone and they love us anyway, they accept us no matter how depraved our thoughts might be.
Naughty Thoughts – With people online it can be even easier to share those thoughts, since we don’t have to deal with them face to face, indeed many times we won’t even see their pictures, or know their last names, so we have nothing to lose in being totally honest and exposed to them. Many times it’s easier to be honest with a stranger than people we have to look at in the face. Ones we can enjoy cyber sex and phone sex with, we can share these fantasies with them and have total safety in doing so. There’s a lot more to online fun than just getting off, indeed we can explore a deeper side to ourselves as well.
Shy Girls – One thing that constantly perplexes me is guys telling me girls are too shy to have phone sex. They can have cyber sex until their clits are numb, but try to get some on the phone and they won’t do it. Some will conclude they are guys and this is why they won’t take the next leap. I won’t go on cam, yet chat by voice with anyone, even non sexual talks, yet unless you will go on cam, some guys will also say you are a man, at which point I mention my audios, but they are so convinced you’re a man unless you go on cam, they won’t even bother listening to an audio to hear your voice.
Be Brave – So many guys seem to have a sense of entitlement to seeing your pics, seeing you on cam, it’s ridiculous. If someone asks for pics, it personally makes me more reluctant to share. Don’t ask and I will share, ask and I’m put off. It’s that sense of them thinking they deserve to be granted some sort of special access they haven’t been invited to yet, annoys the hell out of me. Back to the topic at hand though, personally I don’t get why a girl is reluctant to phone. Ones not wanting to give their phone number can either get Google voice, if they are in the US, or use Yahoo or Skype or our own chat rooms that have audio.
Don’t Hide Your Light Under A Bushel – I say ones reluctant to have phone sex haven’t had good phone sex, because I can promise you once you do, it’s your favorite addiction and hobby. You don’t have to show yourself to them, it’s private, there’s nothing like being listened to as you cum and breathe heavy for someone else, it’s so sexy you’d never be shy once you experienced it and shared that orgasm with another interested party. Ladies, you are missing out, do not let another week go by without experiencing what masturbation can truly be like if you share it with someone. It’s a magical experience.
Phone Sex Rocks – So tell me, have you enjoyed any phone sex lately? Masturbation is oh so much more enjoyable if you share it with someone. So many gals seem to be shy to try it, guys tell me all the time gals will cyber with them, but not phone and they don’t get it. I have no answers for them as I don’t get it either. It’s harmless, fun and in many cases free if you use Yahoo or Skype or our own climaxconnection chat rooms with free audio and video chat.
Privacy Concerns – For ones that prefer to use a real phone and are worried about their privacy if they engage in phone sex, they can use things like Google Voice to get a free phone number they can give to someone without actually giving them their actual phone number. It is only for Americans at this point though. I’m Canadian and some overly paranoid guys have given me a Google Voice number rather than their actual phone number. I can call the Google Voice number, but can’t acquire one myself. Many people don’t even know about this option. You can also get similar Skype forwarding numbers. Many are concerned about sharing their numbers, but there is a way around it if you search.
Spice Up Your Masturbation Routine – Listening to another person get off at the same time you are is so much better than alone it’s not even comparable. Once you get into phone sex, alone simply does not cut it anymore. Ladies are seriously missing out if they don’t join in on the fun. Some guys will say they never did it before, or they wouldn’t know what to say. Honestly, it’s not rocket science people. I’ve had several “first timers” that were wonderful, sexy partners and pleased me a lot with their sounds. Others are quieter and there’s not a lot of talking, mainly listening to each other moan and breathe and trust me, that can be plenty sexy as well if their sounds are hot. So if you haven’t tried phone sex yet, by all means try it out, it’s hotter that Miami in July!
Sexy Christmas – Christmas can be a very romantic and fun and flirty time for couples. Sex underneath the Christmas tree, booze and eggnog flowing and an overall happy spirit. Sexy lingerie with naughty Christmas themes, all kinds of playful possibilities. With our online friends we won’t really be spending time with in person, maybe some naughty pics in said Christmas lingerie might make a naughty email bring a smile to someone’s face, and erection to their cock though!
If you can happen to steal away time together over the holidays for some phone sex or webcam or cybering fun, so much the better, though with many people’s even more hectic that usual schedules, it might prove troublesome. People are often hard to co ordinate their time under the best of circumstances, over the holidays it proves even more difficult with family commitments, and command performance office parties and the like.
I recall once for a year I kept track of how many times I masturbated by making a little heart in the squares of the calendar of the days I played on and added them up at the end of the year and December did indeed have the fewest, was just so busy doing stuff, hardly masturbated all month. So do take some time to masturbate this holiday season, stresses are running high and a few orgasms can do wonders fro your state of mind and release of physical tensions. And if so inclined to send naughty holiday themed pics, I’m sure they’d be welcomed by your online fun partners.
Don’t Be A Jerk – I wrote the following to a member who had written me and asked what he could do to cut down on his experiences with women online that were cybering or camming with him and then going offline as soon as they came, leaving him in the lurch. I decided my reply was sensible enough to be posted for others to see and hopefully learn something from. Even if you are not a religious sort, the do unto others as you would have them do onto you bit is sound advice that every single person should be practicing.
Assholes Online – Many online are assholes, this will come as no revelation, I am sure. Keyboard warriors who are bold due to their anonymity alone. One way to avoid getting dropped during a cam, phone or cyber session, is not to engage in one until you know the person better, but I know most people come on when they are horny and want something right then. This has never been my personal game plan, it’s like going shopping when you are starving, you’ll grab the nearest morsel you can get.
Don’t Just Be Horny, Be Polite – I realize my personal “audition process” is not what most people do, but it cuts down on bad experiences when you chat with someone a few times before playing, there’s more of an investment of time, so they are not as apt to run off as soon as they cum. Even with this method though, it has happened to me. I have been hung up on by a handful of guys after they came, and I was livid and immediately deleted and blocked them. One I even had chatted with for 6 weeks before playing with him and he did this to me the first and only time we played. I have never done this to one person I have phoned with, even when I knew I’d made a bad choice and would never be playing with them again, I got through it and did it and finished the call.
Cum & Go – I have heard countless guys tell me girls they were phoning, camming, or cybering with some girl who immediately left when they came. There are some rude, inconsiderate individuals out there. Obviously they wouldn’t do that to someone they were looking for a long term online playing relationship with. But a “hit and run encounter” with someone they have no intention of playing with again, they just don’t care. Other sites will be the same, CC doesn’t have the market cornered on thoughtless jerks and bitches, all sites will have the same sorts. Selfish idiots looking to get off and only their own orgasm to care about. Show others some respect and let them finish, even if you know you will not be playing with them again.
You Get What You Give – Karma is a reality, what goes around does indeed come around. Show others the same courtesy and respect you yourself would wish to be shown. Would you like to be hung up on? Your screen go black as they have turned off their cam? See them log out in chat when they say they have cum? I doubt you would. Treat others decently and maybe you will have someone to play with again in the future, and not some one time hit and run encounter that you’d be embarrassed to be confronted about.
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