Too Much Of A Good Thing – How do you know if you watch too much porn? Many people don’t realize that they’re watching too much. Too much of anything isn’t good for you. Porn and masturbation go together hand in hand. Most people who watch porn masturbate while doing so. We’ve already talked about how masturbation can have a negative impact on your sex life. Porn can have the same negative impact, along with a few other things that most people aren’t going to realize. Watching too much porn can give us too high of expectations of one another. No one can perform like they do in porn videos. This is a truth that should be common sense.
Reality Check – Watch professional athletes play a game and see how they perform. You can’t slam dunk a basketball like they can. Why would you think that you or your partner should have the same oral sex skills as a porn star? Then there’s the bodies that the porn stars have. The guys have huge cocks and most of them spend all day in the gym. The women have big tits and rarely have an extra ounce of fat on them. Chances are you and your partner look nothing like the people in porn videos do. Unrealistic expectations when it comes to both performance and appearance is what watching too much porn will result in. Then no one is happy.
Everything In Moderation – This isn’t to say that you should quit watching porn entirely. Just make sure you’re not jerking off to porn more than you’re having sex. Porn is a lot like restaurant food, a little every now and then is okay. Don’t eat more takeout than food than what your own two hands cook. Don’t watch more porn than you have sex. It’s as simple as that.
Make Your Partner Your Priority – We live in a digital era where everyone is connected. Chances are you use a computer at work. You probably have a smartphone and use it throughout the day. Think about how much time you spend with electronics. Now, think about how much time you spend with your partner. It can be extremely easy for people to lose focus on spending time with each other. Sending someone an instant message online isn’t spending time together.
Cool it With The Cell Phone – Relationships can’t grow if two people don’t connect to each other outside of the electronic world. Why aren’t you getting laid? It’s probably because you’re not talking with your partner. Instead of talking, both of you are staring at electronic devices. You’re not going to get any action if neither of you are connecting with each other. Most people don’t realize the problems their sex lives face tend to be what’s right in front of them. The average person isn’t a complicated work of art that needs years to decipher. People tend to be straight forward and understanding them isn’t all that difficult. What can you do to lessen the digital divide between you and your partner?
Turn On Your Partner, Not Your Phone – The first thing, have a rule that no electronic devices are allowed at the table. Yes, you’re going to have to talk to each other. Mealtime should always be a special time where the two of you can discuss things and simply chat. The second rule should be no electronic devices in bed. This includes the television as well. Turn everything off and work at turning each other on. These are two simple rules that will do wonders for your sex life. Don’t let electronics get in your way of spending some quality time in the sack with your partner. They can do just that and quite a few of you aren’t even aware that it’s happening.
Break Up, Or Make Up? – When is it a good idea to stop having sex with your partner? This is an odd question that actually comes up quite a bit in relationships. Yes, there is a time to quit having sex with someone. When is it? That’s what we’re going to talk about here. The vast majority of the people reading this will have more than one relationship during their lifetime. This more than likely means you’ll several sex partners. At some point you need to realize when the relationship is over and it’s time to move on. That’s not easy and there’s going to be quite a few hurt feelings to deal with.
I Can’t Say No To You – You should stop having sex with your partner if one or both of you are no longer monogamous. You don’t want to expose yourself or your partner to sexually transmitted diseases. The relationship is coming to an end and there’s no reason to drag it out more. Having sex will do just that. You’ll end up making the break up take longer than it should. Put an end to the sex and respect yourself. To be successful in life you have to be able to show restraint. This is true in your professional and personal life as well.
Walk Away – How do you go about telling your partner the sex is over? This isn’t usually a problem because they know the relationship is about to end. We’re not talking about couples that slowly drift apart and stop having sex with each other. This is about couples that are about go break up and go their separate ways. The best advice anyone will ever give you is to put an end to the relationship and the sex as quickly as possible. Create enough space you and your partner so both sides can work on the healing process. It’s the healthiest and most adult thing to do.
What’s Love Got To Do With It? – Love and sex are two very different things. It can be easily mashed up into something that doesn’t reflect reality. The difference tends to go along the lines of how men and women think. A man can easily have sex with a woman and have no feelings of love towards her at all. For men, sex is much like food. You probably don’t feel all warm and fuzzy for a cheeseburger you’re about to eat. The same could be said in many sexual situations that men find themselves in.
Let’s Keep It Casual – Sex for a man is more about availability than anything else. A woman has sex with a man for emotional reasons. Most often than not, it’s all about love. The woman feels an emotional connection to the man and has sex with him. That doesn’t mean there aren’t some women who can freely have sex without any feeling of attachment. This isn’t the norm and women who are honest with themselves understand this.
Why Do You Want Me ? – The differences in male and female sexuality is merely about how we perceive the world around us. Why is this important? We live in a society were we’re constantly trying to read in between the lines. Why does this guy want to fuck me? Why did she suck my cock last night? Look deeper into the reasoning behind the person’s actions. By doing so you’ll understand what their intent is. Maybe the chick that blew you last night was just drunk and horny. The guy that keeps chasing you around the office really may be in love with you. Don’t ever allow yourself to read into something that may not exist. Your guy friend may just want some pussy and he doesn’t really care about your love of artisan cheese in the slightest. Understand the motivation of people in your sex life will help you to determine what type of relationship is right.
Differing Sex Drives – How do you cope when your partner has a higher or lower sex drive? Let’s face it, no two people are exactly alike. You’re never going to find anyone with the exact same sex drive as you. Men generally have a higher sex drive than women. This isn’t always the case however. This article is geared towards someone that has a super charged sex drive and their partner doesn’t. What do you do in a situation like this?
Anticipation – The first thing you talk about it and try to have sex more often. As we’ve talked in other articles, you’ve got to plan for sex. This is one way you can get over the hurdle of different sex drives. You can make a schedule that lays out exactly when you’re going to have sex. It’s not instantaneous, but that doesn’t mean this type of sex is boring. In fact, it can be quite the opposite. You can prepare yourself throughout the day for the sex you’ll have later on. Think of it as knowing you’re going to have a steak for supper. Your mouth will water all day long knowing that delicious meat will be on your plate. You’ve tried all of his and you’re still not getting enough sex. What is a person supposed to do? You play with yourself. What else can you do? You don’t want to step out on your relationship and risk putting an end to it.
Weigh The Risks – Disease is always something you have to keep in the back of your mind when cheating. What you’re left with is the only viable option, which is to masturbate. No relationship is perfect in every way. Sex is important, but it’s not a matter of not getting any. It’s simply a matter of not getting enough. A problem that most people with a strong sex drive will have to get used to.
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