I’ve Got A Secret – If you have a partner, should you tell them about your forays into online fun? This is a common question and worry I read about in forums about people in relationships. I have seen profiles with text on them that said things like, “Got a gf now, so long everyone!”
Life’s A Banquet And Most Poor Bastards Are Starving – I guess if many find real life fun, the draw of online fun lessens. Real trumps imagined. Many in real relationships though are not getting much sex, either due to lack of interest on their partners part, health issues of their partner, boredom, all kinds of reasons. Online fun is a much needed outlet for many individuals not getting any, or not getting enough at home. Should a partner worry or feel threatened, 99% of the time, not at all. Variety is the spice of life and if people are content to remain in sexless relationships, they at least need some outlet to express their sexuality in. Whether that’s cyber sex, phone sex, camming, or simply hanging out in adult chat rooms at all.
Take Your Pleasure Where You Find It – There was a forum post I answered recently some place and this poor bastard was feeling guilty since he was into cam sex and his wife would only give him sex 5-6 times a year. How insane he should feel guilty over that! It’s sad how many are living lives of quiet desperation and guilt over nothing. Everyone has the right to private lives, you do not owe full disclosure to anyone. Enjoy yourself and get your enjoyment where you can. An adult chat room or online fun is nothing to feel guilty about unless it’s making you forgo other routine activities you are a part of.
How Many Have You Done The Deed With – Should you tell your partner how many partners you have been with? This is a common thing that comes up early on in relationships some are worried about. The only time I think you should answer this truthfully is if the answer is none. Someone deserves to know if they are about to go where no man has gone before. They may not be ready for the responsibility of that title bestowed upon them. Otherwise, no good can come of revealing such a thing.
Keep Your Mouth Shut – The old double standard is alive and well, and a truthful answer may have a guy thinking you are a slut if you’re honest with them. Just the other day a guy I was chatting with stated he’d been with over 100 women, and he’s under age 30. May be true, may be not true, but I was not impressed. Imagine if a woman stated such an answer. Who would honestly say they wouldn’t first think “slut”?
Do They Really Need To Know – We really do not have a right to judge others, we do not know the circumstances that brought them to have as many or as few partners as is socially acceptable. For ones that are very open, the types perhaps into the swinger lifestyle, a high number of partners and revealing of the experiences that goes with that may prove very arousing to both parties, to others it may color their perception of us and make us question their fidelity. Do you REALLY want to know “the number”? Wouldn’t it just taunt you and perhaps worse, be used as future ammunition in arguments? As long as both people are disease free and willing to prove that if asked, revealing numbers of any sort is not the way to go. What is an acceptable number for one person, may be a staggering amount to another. Some things really are best left under our hats.
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