What Does It Mean? – First of all what it stands for – Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission. Im sure most of you must have wanted to try it at some time but you are probably too afraid what your partner might think of it. What you dont know is, women are just as wild as you are in many cases on the inside. Some may want you to be in charge while some may want to be in full control. But if you never ask or talk to them, you will never know! The popularity of movies and books like the Fifty Shades of Gray series has really brought BDSM to the attention of the masses, and not just the fringes of society
Fun Accessories – The first thing that comes to your mind from BDSM must be blindfolds, chains, handcuffs and strap-ons. There is much more to it actually but yes, those are the little steps. You can find all of these things online. If you want to save yourself some bucks, go for a combined bondage fantasy kit. It will contain all of the above-stated items and much more. Maybe some floggers, candles for dripping hot wax, all kinds of goodies.
Reversing Roles – If you already know that your partner is open to all sorts of kinky stuff, you can plan a whole surprise for her, or ladies, you can do it for your man as well. Sometimes men don’t like to be in charge and want you to be the creative one and in control. Be his domme for the night, and him your more than willing submissive, there is nothing as sexy as a woman who can show what she wants and how its done. So break out those whips and blindfolds and try something different tonight!
Dress You Up – You’re in a strange position that you never thought you’d be in. Your partner wants you to dress up as someone of the opposite sex. Should you be alarmed that they’re having homosexual fantasies? The quick answer is no. The truth is, they may not be having homosexual fantasies at all. They just want to do a little role playing. They may want to see you wearing something different. It could be something as simple as that.
Role Playing – Can it harm your relationship to live out gender bending fantasies? No. Actually, you might find your relationship stronger afterwards. Your partner will feel that they can come to you with any fantasy that they have. No matter how strange it may seem at the time. It very well could be a phase they’re going through. Living out the fantasy may get it out of their system and you can then move onto something else. The only caveat to all this is if you notice your partner watching a lot of homosexual porn. You may even notice them paying close attention to people of the same sex while out and about. If this is the case, it very well could be more than just a fantasy.
What Are The Risks? – The only real danger of this sort of thing is adultery. The risk of heartache and disease is real when people stray away from their relationship. As long as adultery isn’t in the mix, gender bending fantasies are okay. In fact, they’re quite healthy. You might as well put on a fake mustache and go down on your man. There’s no reason why he can’t put on a bra or wear some high heel shoes. If nothing else, the two of you very well could get a laugh out of it.
It’s A Bird, It’s A Plane, It’s Superman – Have you heard of cosplay? You probably have. It’s where you dress up like your favorite movie, cartoon, or video game character. It’s something that a lot of people are into. You know where this is going. You don’t have to just dress up like one of these characters at your favorite convention. You can even do it in the bedroom. You can be the big hunk that your woman has always wanted.
Rescue me – Maybe your guy has always wanted to have sex with a princess. You get the drift. Cosplay gives you the chance to live out your fantasies on a whole new level. Let’s be honest for a second. Your partner probably won’t look like a princess or a bodybuilder hunk with abs made of steel. That doesn’t mean you can’t live out the fantasy and have a good time in the process. It’s all about spicing up your sex life. Sometimes things can get far too routine. Many couples stop having sex because everything becomes boring. It’s like you’re going through the motions just one more time. Get it over with and then go on with your day. Cosplay is no different than role playing or anything along those lines. The difference is that it uses your favorite characters and it allows you to think outside the box. You can be a whole different person and sometimes that can be a good thing.
Let’s Get Creative – Cosplay doesn’t have to be expensive. You can even make your own costumes. You can be as creative as you want. It’s truly all about you. What character are you going to be? Here’s a twist that you probably didn’t expect coming. You can even play someone of the opposite sex. A guy can be a damsel in distress that needs saving. Remember, this is just for you and your partner. It’s not just about the sex. What you’re trying to do is have fun and let your hair down. Have a few drinks and put your costume on. Enjoy some fun and a few giggles along the way. It’ll make the experience something that you’ll wonder if it’s a fairytale or not.
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This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, eric60red
Costumes Can Enhance Roleplay – Now that you have an understanding of what sexual role-playing is, you will need to make up your mind what kind you are happy with. A few examples, Romantic, Kinky, BDSM, Bondage, Younger with Older, Uniforms, Fantasy, the list is almost endless. Sexual desire is as diverse as it is personal, and sometimes we don’t find it easy to share our most intimate thoughts, with the people closest to us, but a person in a chat room a stranger can become an erotic experience.
Secret Desires Fulfilled – We use a variety of methods to overcome these inhibitions and now more and more couples are getting started with sexual role play as a means to take on a different persona and explore their lesser-expressed fantasies. On the internet, in a chat room like Climax Connection, or one of the popular messenger services, one can fulfill a desire or fantasy.
Steamy Scenarios – Sexual role play is not a new idea, but it is a good one and as such, many sensual scenarios have been created, explored and ultimately shared. Some use photos, to help with descriptions, others use the words to describe the role. Online many get very sexually aroused and masturbate to climax, as the play gets hotter and hotter. The possibilities are endless and only as good as your imagination, so if being somebody else in the name of sexual self-discovery sounds appealing to you, or sitting in front of your computer and using your own mind here are a few simple ideas just to get you started.
Risky Impregnation Fetish – One role play that seems fairly popular among people is the impregnation one. Breeding and bareback sex, it’s all quite intimate and sexy. Even for ones that do not want kids, it can have a fantasy only appeal. No, I do not actually wish to become pregnant, not now, not ever, but in phone sex calls and I’d imagine for ones into cyber, it has an appeal of intimacy and hot, risky sex to it.
Breed Me – The thought of a raw, sexual encounter, so primal and lustful and perhaps unplanned so no time to prepare with something as silly as birth control. It’s appealing and dangerous and like Russian roulette, yet you just can’t stop yourself even knowing the lifelong consequences, the passion is that great, the connection is that strong. The thought of a fertile pussy awaiting the delivery of potent seed from a hard and throbbing cock that is about to explode with lust and flood your waiting womb does have a primitive appeal. I recall a man telling me there’s nothing like the sex when you’re trying for a baby. I guess it must be different in some way, I can’t relate as kids are not something I ever wanted, but for fantasies and phone sex, it has its place for sure.
My Fertile Womb – Even in men that are sterile, this seems to be a popular fantasy. Perhaps since they know it will in fact never be a reality, it makes it all the more sexy and hot to live out in their self created sex scenarios. Breast milk fetish also popular, both with ones into impregnation fetish and into mommy role plays, but they do not always want a mommy when they are into breast milk fantasies.
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