Take The Time – Nowadays, we are so focused on work that we rarely have the time to unwind. In fact, modern generations tend to stop having sex for prolonged periods of time. This is why communication is very important here. With is help, it will be a whole lot easier to get the results you want. What should you talk about? Maybe the most important thing would be desires, fetishes and fantasies. All of us have desires and fantasies, but many times we don’t really talk about them at all. And if we don’t say anything, our loved one is obviously not going to know anything about them.
Open Up – Aside from that, you could also talk about sexual history and future plans. This is actually quite an interesting topic, and it can bring you some really nifty ideas for you to take into consideration. If you do have any sexual secrets, share them with your loved one as well. This may end up improving your relationship. The lack of openness when it comes to sex is very important here, so try to use that to your own advantage if you can.
Communicate – It’s not easy to talk about sex, even if you are in a fruitful relationship for quite some time. But communication is key, and that’s the thing that you need to focus on at all costs. It’s definitely challenging to discuss sexual stuff with your partner, but once you get past this inhibition, you will be very happy!
I’ve Got A Secret – The importance of fantasy in our lives is fairly sizeable for some people. Things that they think about in their private moments that they know they likely would never be able to actually live out. Sexual fantasies about celebrities, family members, all sorts of scenarios that will never get to actually happen.
From Mild To Wild – When we find someone we are comfortable with and can share our deepest, darkest fantasy with, we truly feel a kindred spirit. Most times even our partners are holding back, they won’t totally let their guard down. Some things are just too private to share with anyone, we worry our darkest selves would be rejected. They say true love is when you can expose those darkest sides to someone and they love us anyway, they accept us no matter how depraved our thoughts might be.
Naughty Thoughts – With people online it can be even easier to share those thoughts, since we don’t have to deal with them face to face, indeed many times we won’t even see their pictures, or know their last names, so we have nothing to lose in being totally honest and exposed to them. Many times it’s easier to be honest with a stranger than people we have to look at in the face. Ones we can enjoy cyber sex and phone sex with, we can share these fantasies with them and have total safety in doing so. There’s a lot more to online fun than just getting off, indeed we can explore a deeper side to ourselves as well.
I’ve Got A Secret – If you have a partner, should you tell them about your forays into online fun? This is a common question and worry I read about in forums about people in relationships. I have seen profiles with text on them that said things like, “Got a gf now, so long everyone!”
Life’s A Banquet And Most Poor Bastards Are Starving – I guess if many find real life fun, the draw of online fun lessens. Real trumps imagined. Many in real relationships though are not getting much sex, either due to lack of interest on their partners part, health issues of their partner, boredom, all kinds of reasons. Online fun is a much needed outlet for many individuals not getting any, or not getting enough at home. Should a partner worry or feel threatened, 99% of the time, not at all. Variety is the spice of life and if people are content to remain in sexless relationships, they at least need some outlet to express their sexuality in. Whether that’s cyber sex, phone sex, camming, or simply hanging out in adult chat rooms at all.
Take Your Pleasure Where You Find It – There was a forum post I answered recently some place and this poor bastard was feeling guilty since he was into cam sex and his wife would only give him sex 5-6 times a year. How insane he should feel guilty over that! It’s sad how many are living lives of quiet desperation and guilt over nothing. Everyone has the right to private lives, you do not owe full disclosure to anyone. Enjoy yourself and get your enjoyment where you can. An adult chat room or online fun is nothing to feel guilty about unless it’s making you forgo other routine activities you are a part of.
Online Hook Ups – For many people, being part of an adult social network like this site allows them to explore things they either have not had the opportunity to in real life, or things they haven’t the nerve to try in real life. Looking for play online is often a fact of life when either one has no partner at all, or when the partner they do have is not as sexual a person as they are and they are needing to fulfill a need not being met by their partner.
Masturbation Cyber Style – Some people look at it as cheating, others not. Many couples are very open and seek online fun together, either alone by themselves, or together to spice things up. Being friendly online to some is just a much safer way of playing around with no risk of disease. Even if I had a partner, and they were ok with my playing around online, I’d prefer to keep that to myself. It’s private and my own little naughty, harmless secret, I wouldn’t want to make that part of my couple life. The need for variety is great and if they too were playing online with others, I wouldn’t want to know about it at all. Ever.
Help Me Get Off – Most people that phone, cam, cyber together will never, ever really meet. Of course there are exceptions, but mostly it’s not a worry. So for a partner to take that need for variety as a threat to their relationship is groundless most of the time. It’s occasional escapism with a sexual twist, and that’s how they need to view it, nothing more, nothing less. Now if a partner was camming every night for 3 hours or something and taking away from their relationship time, then that is an addictive behavior, but if it’s in moderation, say a few times a week, then I’d say it’s a fun excursion in their sexual life with no need to worry about it.
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