Are You Doing It Again? – What do you do when you keep catching your partner masturbation? You’ve probably caught your partner jerking off or finger banging before. How do you handle repeatedly catching them do this? Many people make the mistake that their partner’s masturbation is a reflection on them. That could be the case. However, it very well may not be. You have to determine why they’re masturbating so much.
Horny All The Time – You’ve just caught your partner in the throws of self-pleasing themselves. Now what? Don’t freak out. Let them finish. There’s no reason to spoil a perfectly good orgasm. After they’re done, you need to talk. Ask them why they’re masturbating so much. Are you not having enough sex with them? If that’s the case, then something needs to change. You could be offering sex, but your partner isn’t interested. This is a big problem as well. You need to determine why your partner is choose their hand over you. You and your partner have sex quite a bit. They’re still masturbating. What does that mean? It means they have a strong sex drive. Sex alone isn’t enough to satisfy them. Masturbation isn’t wrong in this situation. After all, they’re giving you a break in a sense.
Mismatching Sex Drives – No two people are going to be perfect matches when it comes to the amount of sex they desire. Masturbation is a way for people to make up for the sex they don’t receive. There are those times when people just like to play with themselves. Every now and then the best sex partner is yourself. Don’t be alarmed to find out that your partner occasionally plays with themselves. If it’s often, then the reason is one listed above. Determine why they’re playing with themselves and deal with it.
How To Make It Better – Everyone wants to know what they can do to improve their sex lives. Rarely are people concerned about what ruins their sex life. That’s what this is all about. How you improve your sex life can be as simple as avoiding bad stuff. That sounds overly simple, but it’s true. Don’t look for magic cures that will spice up your sex life instantly. Instead, focus on changing the aspects of your life that have a negative effect on what’s going on in the bedroom. Fix the small things before they become issues.
Seek Help If Needed – This is where communication is key. You may have to discuss the things with your partner that’s getting in the way of having sex. That may also mean talking to a marriage therapist. Counseling isn’t just for nut jobs who can’t keep it together. It’s also for people who experience bumps in the road. How much do you value your sex life? Talking about it to a therapist may be the only way to rescue it. Improving your sex life may also mean modifying your diet and exercise routine. What you put into your body has a direct impact on how it performs. A healthier you will also be more attractive to your partner. Higher performance and better appearance are just two of the many aspects of your life that will improve when taking care of your health.
You’re Worth it – You must work on improving all aspects of yourself for your sex life to improve. This is what most people don’t understand. Don’t go to the store looking for a herbal supplement or some magic lingerie that will do the trick. The trick to great sex is being healthy and happy long before you hop into the sack. If you are healthy and happy, great sex will follow. There is no sexual cure for those who are unhealthy and sad, other than self improvement.
Too Much Of A Good Thing – How do you know if you watch too much porn? Many people don’t realize that they’re watching too much. Too much of anything isn’t good for you. Porn and masturbation go together hand in hand. Most people who watch porn masturbate while doing so. We’ve already talked about how masturbation can have a negative impact on your sex life. Porn can have the same negative impact, along with a few other things that most people aren’t going to realize. Watching too much porn can give us too high of expectations of one another. No one can perform like they do in porn videos. This is a truth that should be common sense.
Reality Check – Watch professional athletes play a game and see how they perform. You can’t slam dunk a basketball like they can. Why would you think that you or your partner should have the same oral sex skills as a porn star? Then there’s the bodies that the porn stars have. The guys have huge cocks and most of them spend all day in the gym. The women have big tits and rarely have an extra ounce of fat on them. Chances are you and your partner look nothing like the people in porn videos do. Unrealistic expectations when it comes to both performance and appearance is what watching too much porn will result in. Then no one is happy.
Everything In Moderation – This isn’t to say that you should quit watching porn entirely. Just make sure you’re not jerking off to porn more than you’re having sex. Porn is a lot like restaurant food, a little every now and then is okay. Don’t eat more takeout than food than what your own two hands cook. Don’t watch more porn than you have sex. It’s as simple as that.
Chill Out – Many people overlook the devastating impact stress has on their sex lives. It certainly can have an impact on a male’s ability to achieve an erection. It can easily ruin the desire to have sex as well. Don’t let stress overwhelm you to the point that it has a negative impact on your sex life. Stress is a byproduct of life and no one should lose sight of that. Every person will experience stress on some level each day. The key thing is to manage and get rid of the stress in a way that enables you to function in the bedroom.
Relax Naturally – Drugs, alcohol, and poor diet are ways that many people deal with stress. All three of those things will have a negative impact on your sexual health. Learn how to identify things that stress you out. Deal with them before they become a problem. The best way to do so is by managing every aspect of your day to day life. You should never live life without a net. Instead, plan everything well in advance. Doing so will result in less stress. Exercise has an almost drug like effect on reducing stress. Make sure that you’re exercising every day. Set aside some time daily to exercise and you’ll immediately notice the results.
Keep Stress Away – A reduction in stress will have a great impact on the quality of your sex life. Many people make the mistake of thinking their stress is the result of an unfulfilling sex life. It very well could be the other way around. The reason you’re not happy in the sack is because you’re experiencing too much stress. Reduction in stress will increase the level of satisfaction you experience in the bedroom. Always be aware of your partner’s stress levels and help them find ways to reduce it. Doing so will improve the quality and quantity of sex the two of you are enjoying.
Half The Man You Used To Be – You’re not feeling like the man you used to be. There was a time when you could get an erection just looking at something shaped like breasts. Now you’re not even in the mood to have sex. The first thing most guys in this situation think of is getting some Viagra or another erectile dysfunction medication. What most men don’t realize is, those pills won’t do anything for your sex drive. Sure, they may make you hard, but that doesn’t equal desire. You’ve got to figure out why you aren’t feeling like yourself.
Shape Up – What should you do if you’re lacking the desire to have sex? Hit the gym. More than likely you’re not as fit as you once were. This may not be the entire reason why you’re not in the mood to make love. The problem is more than likely due to a lack of testosterone. That’s the male hormone that keeps everything in check. You can naturally raise your testosterone levels by working out. Don’t go to the gym and think you’ll be working out like an Olympic athlete right away. You may even consider hiring a personal trainer for your first few visits. Diet and exercise play a big part in how your body regulates hormones. This is especially true for guys as they age. Don’t go to the doctor thinking there is something wrong with your penis.
Raging Hormones – You also shouldn’t immediately ask for testosterone replacement therapy. It has side effects that can be much worse than a lack of desire in the bedroom. Go the all natural route and see how you feel. You’ll probably feel the desire to have sex the minute you leave the gym. Your testosterone will be in high gear and you’ll be around lots of half naked women working out. If that doesn’t get your juices flowing, then nothing will.
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