Rub One Out – Some of you may be aware May is National Masturbation Month. For many on a site like this, it’s an everyday event we know, sometimes multiple, but we all must admit masturbation acceptance has come leaps and bounds in the past century and even in the past decades. Imagine in the Victorian Era, parents actually bound their children’s hands or put anti masturbation mittens on them to prevent them from touching themselves. Kellogg’s Corn Flakes and Graham Crackers were originally created as anti masturbation foods to dull the libido, odd but true.
It’s All Very Natural – It’s sad how many people tell me they feel guilty for masturbating when it’s as natural a thing to do as sneeze, sleep or have a drink of water. You wouldn’t feel guilty for doing any of those things, would you? Not likely. It’s funny how people can joke about someone passing gas or burping, yet masturbating, OMG, you’re going to hell, you filthy masturbator! It astounds that everyone isn’t encouraging it since it would cut down on the sexual frustrations of the young, lead to less sexual involvement with others if young people knew how to give themselves orgasms in a relaxed manner, would cut down on men growing up to be premature ejaculators since they didn’t grow up with the fear of being caught and so no need to hurry. The roots of many sexual dysfunctions are based in the worry of being caught masturbating, or hurrying up to prevent it.
Don’t Shame – in cases where someone is sadly caught that didn’t shut or lock a door, the best thing is just to turn around, shut the door, act as if nothing happened and never say a word about it. I’ve heard people say their parents either wouldn’t allow door locks, didn’t knock before walking in, or in extreme instances removed doors entirely for zero privacy. It’s unthinkable when people deserve and need privacy the most they would be robbed of this basic human dignity. For some people masturbation is their only outlet for sexual release, it’s important to not feel shame or shame others for a natural act.
I’ve Got A Secret – The importance of fantasy in our lives is fairly sizeable for some people. Things that they think about in their private moments that they know they likely would never be able to actually live out. Sexual fantasies about celebrities, family members, all sorts of scenarios that will never get to actually happen.
From Mild To Wild – When we find someone we are comfortable with and can share our deepest, darkest fantasy with, we truly feel a kindred spirit. Most times even our partners are holding back, they won’t totally let their guard down. Some things are just too private to share with anyone, we worry our darkest selves would be rejected. They say true love is when you can expose those darkest sides to someone and they love us anyway, they accept us no matter how depraved our thoughts might be.
Naughty Thoughts – With people online it can be even easier to share those thoughts, since we don’t have to deal with them face to face, indeed many times we won’t even see their pictures, or know their last names, so we have nothing to lose in being totally honest and exposed to them. Many times it’s easier to be honest with a stranger than people we have to look at in the face. Ones we can enjoy cyber sex and phone sex with, we can share these fantasies with them and have total safety in doing so. There’s a lot more to online fun than just getting off, indeed we can explore a deeper side to ourselves as well.
Rub One Out – For pretty much all of human history, people have been made to feel ashamed and guilty about masturbation. Kellogg’s corn flakes were originally invented as an anti-masturbation food. The inventor was a Dr. that wrote on the evils of self gratification and encouraged parents to give their children the cereal to ward off their base desires. The Victorian era was filled with anti-masturbation devices people bought for their children, everything from chastity devices to mittens their hands were tied into. The poor kids had the fear of God instilled in them that blindness or insanity or at the very least hair on their palms awaited them if they dared touch themselves.
I Touch Myself – Even today not many parents act properly if they catch their children touching themselves, many create a lifelong trauma by their reactions. I have had men tell me they feel ashamed and embarrassed they masturbate, I ask them, do you feel guilty if you are tired? Do you feel guilty if you are thirsty? No? Then why do you feel guilty for needing a physical release, it’s the same thing really. People are horny to perpetuate the species, but not everyone is going to have a partner around at all times to help them out, most won’t, so it’s natures way of allowing us said release, it’s as insane to feel guilty for masturbating as it is to feel guilt over thirst.
Let’s All Masturbate – People need to come around and change the way they think. I consider myself an advocate of masturbation now, and phone sex ambassador. People should be encouraging their children that it’s fine, normal and healthy and with no shame, just privacy to be considered. Animals have it above us in many ways, animals feel no shame or guilt, they have the sense not to. Primates masturbate, as do dolphins and many other animals. I’m not saying we should be so at ease as to start doing it on the bench at the mall, but it should be no more embarrassing than needing to sneeze or blow your nose. Bodies are made for experiencing pleasure. Even though poor George Costanza’s mother would have us believe otherwise……
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