Talk Dirty To Me – Not everyone has a talent for talking dirty. Some seem to be born with it. Others, try as they might, just can’t seem to say the words and feel natural doing so. Some it rolls off of their tongue like honey, just easy as anything, while others sound absurd coming out with naughty phrases and words. It’s strange how some just have an aptitude for it and others you want to laugh when you hear them attempt it.
Phone Sex – None of us were born taking naughty, though we may have taken to swearing early for sure. *Raises hand*. I was called down to the principals office more times than I can remember due to my salty mouth, and guess who I learned my choice words from-Mom-so she didn’t really get mad when she’d get a call I was in the office again, it was sort of a joke really, the teachers getting so worked up over words. Not hurting anyone, not stealing anything, just swearing. I wonder what the teachers would think now knowing I make my living by talking dirty ? That would be hilarious to see their reactions, for sure.
Make Me Wet With Your Words – Talking dirty in bed can heighten things for many couples, especially ones that normally do not swear, the words have a power to them that they don’t for others, if they are reserved just for bedroom naughty talk. Some especially if their parents were opposed to swearing or if punishments were severe for doing it, the power those words have can be extremely sexually charged and bring things to a level of excitement they do not normally experience. Words only have the power we bestow upon them, so if you make kids think it’s a huge deal to swear, then the shock value is what they will be going for, let it slide and not so much power, not that you want your kids talking like Ozzy Osbourne, but you get the idea. Swearing and dirty talk have their place.
Last Longer – It seems Mother Nature in one her many tricks upon mankind made men stronger, but gave women better stamina. I always find it amusing how I can outlast guys half my age when it comes to orgasms. So many, most, are one and they’re done wonders. Not many can go multiple rounds. Some can yes, and they are my favorites for sure. I guess for some guys an orgasm does deplete them of their strengths. You always think of the silly advice of coaches telling their players not to have sex before a big game, perhaps there’s something to that.
Go For It – Women on the other hand, can often feel invigorated and ready to take on more, it can be a getting a second wind situation that perks us up. Funny how we have been built so differently in many cases that way. If it’s that way with most half my age, I don’t even want to think how the ones my own age or older are even beginning to satisfy their ladies. I guess they aren’t. Depressing. Granted some women don’t have the drive or the interest in the first place, but some of us do and for ones like us, it’s hard to find a partner that can keep up with us.
Sexual Endurance – So when we stamina filled women do come across one of the rare men that can keep up with us, it is a treat to be sure. To be left exhausted, breathless and spent is the most wonderful feeling! No, I can’t bench press heavy weights like many guys can, but then, I don’t think there’s many guys that can cum 7 times in 90 minutes either…….Um, I like my skill better!
Isn’t It Romantic – Valentine’s Day can be very romantic for one if they are part of a couple. If alone, not so much. It can actually make you bitter and angry! Looking at all the couples hand in hand and swooning over one another to the single person can make them pretty much go, “Barf, gag!” Lovely dovey is nice if you’re one of them, lonely if you’re not. Many that are couples they can still feel alone, you have no idea how many people I talk to that are part of a couple yet are “alone” in sexless relationship.
Love Is In The Air – If you are lucky enough to be in a healthy, satisfying relationship, do what you can to keep it that way and keep it fresh and exciting and filled with hot sex and spontaneity. There’s no need to spend lots of money, as some have been doing. Many say it’s becoming like Christmas, too commercialized and benefiting mainly greeting card companies, and florists and candy factories. A lovely dinner at home or out can be just fine for couples on a budget. There’s no need to spend a fortune and go into debt.
I Love You SO Much – Valentine’s Day has also been one of the most popular days for couples to get engaged. Love is just in the air surrounding that time and many of us hope Cupids arrow will hit our intended target. I recall once I made pink heart shaped sugar cookies for a guy I had a crush on and had my mom deliver them, oh God, I wince at such antics… I didn’t get him anyway, but I tried. I thought the cookies were appropriate and got the point across.
Say What – The double standard is alive and well in the dating game, or the sex game is more accurate. I read an article recently that spoke of the differences in people and casual sex, oral sex specifically. It said how getting a blow job for a guy was pretty common, yet women were certainly not getting anywhere near the same amount of downtown action. Seems a bj is pretty casual and standard, but for a guy to go downtown on a lady he needs to know her better. What utter nonsense, couldn’t think it true, but it is.
Equal Rights Orgasms – A guy I chat with said the same thing, how he gets bj’s all the time and expects them-yet he’d never go down on a woman the same way unless she was a girlfriend. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, yet he was so matter of fact about it. He said they didn’t ask either, so it’s not like he was declining them when they asked, but I wonder, why are they not? Why is a woman’s sexual desire or needs any less than a man’s? Does a woman need to feel she knows someone better before allowing that level of intimacy? Yet why is it different to give one to a guy casually? I don’t understand.
Going Downtown – Just a generation ago, oral sex was considered a lot more intimate than intercourse, and not something that would be doled out so casually, yet since the rise of AIDS, it’s seemed a safer option than full on sex . And lest we forget the, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman…” (In other words, she gave me a bj, but I didn’t fuck her.) So oral is thought of by many to not even BE sex. It’s a confusing world these days, but I just don’t think it’s fair that women are seemingly doing all the giving and are apparently content to do so. It’s important to reciprocate, or don’t ask or expect someone else to do something you’re not willing to yourself.
I’ve Got A Secret – If you have a partner, should you tell them about your forays into online fun? This is a common question and worry I read about in forums about people in relationships. I have seen profiles with text on them that said things like, “Got a gf now, so long everyone!”
Life’s A Banquet And Most Poor Bastards Are Starving – I guess if many find real life fun, the draw of online fun lessens. Real trumps imagined. Many in real relationships though are not getting much sex, either due to lack of interest on their partners part, health issues of their partner, boredom, all kinds of reasons. Online fun is a much needed outlet for many individuals not getting any, or not getting enough at home. Should a partner worry or feel threatened, 99% of the time, not at all. Variety is the spice of life and if people are content to remain in sexless relationships, they at least need some outlet to express their sexuality in. Whether that’s cyber sex, phone sex, camming, or simply hanging out in adult chat rooms at all.
Take Your Pleasure Where You Find It – There was a forum post I answered recently some place and this poor bastard was feeling guilty since he was into cam sex and his wife would only give him sex 5-6 times a year. How insane he should feel guilty over that! It’s sad how many are living lives of quiet desperation and guilt over nothing. Everyone has the right to private lives, you do not owe full disclosure to anyone. Enjoy yourself and get your enjoyment where you can. An adult chat room or online fun is nothing to feel guilty about unless it’s making you forgo other routine activities you are a part of.
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