Isn’t It Romantic – Valentine’s Day can be very romantic for one if they are part of a couple. If alone, not so much. It can actually make you bitter and angry! Looking at all the couples hand in hand and swooning over one another to the single person can make them pretty much go, “Barf, gag!” Lovely dovey is nice if you’re one of them, lonely if you’re not. Many that are couples they can still feel alone, you have no idea how many people I talk to that are part of a couple yet are “alone” in sexless relationship.
Love Is In The Air – If you are lucky enough to be in a healthy, satisfying relationship, do what you can to keep it that way and keep it fresh and exciting and filled with hot sex and spontaneity. There’s no need to spend lots of money, as some have been doing. Many say it’s becoming like Christmas, too commercialized and benefiting mainly greeting card companies, and florists and candy factories. A lovely dinner at home or out can be just fine for couples on a budget. There’s no need to spend a fortune and go into debt.
I Love You SO Much – Valentine’s Day has also been one of the most popular days for couples to get engaged. Love is just in the air surrounding that time and many of us hope Cupids arrow will hit our intended target. I recall once I made pink heart shaped sugar cookies for a guy I had a crush on and had my mom deliver them, oh God, I wince at such antics… I didn’t get him anyway, but I tried. I thought the cookies were appropriate and got the point across.
Toys For Girls & Boys – Sex toys are a growing trend all over, for single people and couples alike. Most women have a few vibrators in their bedside tables these days to enhance their masturbation experience, and men are also getting on the bandwagon and getting themselves everything from Fleshlight’s to Pocket Pussies. For many, fingers and hands are great, but just don’t provide as much variety as they would like for their solo masturbation experience.
Spice Things Up – A few guys I have talked to love their pocket pussies so much and say they feel so good, they can only last a mere few moments once they insert their cock into them the feeling is so exquisite. There are literally thousands of sex toys available for every conceivable sexual activity out there, from spanking paddles and whips for ones into BDSM, to sex dolls for the really lonely ones out there. Things like flavored lubricants, chocolate body paints and lickable honey dust that is applied with little feather applicators make things fun for you and your partner. They spice things up a little from the everyday.
Ban Boring Sex – Some will enjoy their vibes alone in peace, others have loftier goals of getting their partners to try every thing from strap ons to sex swings. The items do provide a different sensation than a hand could, no on has a vibrating hand now, do they? Some get very bored with the same thing every time, no matter how good it is and toys allow you to explore different sensations and add some variety to your sexual routine. Massage oils and candles can also set the perfect mood for trying all these fun sex accessories.
Say What – The double standard is alive and well in the dating game, or the sex game is more accurate. I read an article recently that spoke of the differences in people and casual sex, oral sex specifically. It said how getting a blow job for a guy was pretty common, yet women were certainly not getting anywhere near the same amount of downtown action. Seems a bj is pretty casual and standard, but for a guy to go downtown on a lady he needs to know her better. What utter nonsense, couldn’t think it true, but it is.
Equal Rights Orgasms – A guy I chat with said the same thing, how he gets bj’s all the time and expects them-yet he’d never go down on a woman the same way unless she was a girlfriend. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, yet he was so matter of fact about it. He said they didn’t ask either, so it’s not like he was declining them when they asked, but I wonder, why are they not? Why is a woman’s sexual desire or needs any less than a man’s? Does a woman need to feel she knows someone better before allowing that level of intimacy? Yet why is it different to give one to a guy casually? I don’t understand.
Going Downtown – Just a generation ago, oral sex was considered a lot more intimate than intercourse, and not something that would be doled out so casually, yet since the rise of AIDS, it’s seemed a safer option than full on sex . And lest we forget the, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman…” (In other words, she gave me a bj, but I didn’t fuck her.) So oral is thought of by many to not even BE sex. It’s a confusing world these days, but I just don’t think it’s fair that women are seemingly doing all the giving and are apparently content to do so. It’s important to reciprocate, or don’t ask or expect someone else to do something you’re not willing to yourself.
Look At Me – Cam sex is popular with many people, they love watching another person get off in front of them via the webcam, it’s like “personalized porn” in a way! How many guys have asked me if I’d like to watch over the years since I’ve been chatting online, easily hundreds that have, yet it’s not my thing. They just cannot grasp it doesn’t excite someone if it does them . It’s like, “I LOOVVVVEEE it SOOOOO much!!! How can you NOT love it too????”
Can I Watch – Be my guest to shake your dick for others over webcam , go right ahead, but I will not be a party to it. Then some will ask, “Well, if you don’t like it, maybe I can just watch you!” Um, that’s a NO. I’ll leave it to the porn stars, that’s what they are there for, to arouse the masses with their animated displays. So many guys that have been well endowed by Mother Nature are very proud of their members and wish to show their largesse to the world and share themselves at the same time. I swear many of them are porn star wannabes and use the internet to try and “get the word out”. I well recall one guy I used to chat with that proclaimed he “did shows” for around a dozen women in a few different countries. He talked of them as if they were fans or groupies!
Mutual Masturbation Chat – You can’t fault a guy for being proud of his assets, I guess. Webcam sex is a big part of many guys masturbation these days, either showing off themselves, or trying to watch young ladies be naughty in front of them. Many are looking for the best of both, a mutual masturbation session to keep both parties entertained. It seems hard for many of them to find willing girls who will do it for fun, and that are not doing it for profit. Cam girls annoy the hell out of most guys it seems, they want a mutual masturbation experience, not some girl that’s only seeking to play for pay.
Rub One Out – For pretty much all of human history, people have been made to feel ashamed and guilty about masturbation. Kellogg’s corn flakes were originally invented as an anti-masturbation food. The inventor was a Dr. that wrote on the evils of self gratification and encouraged parents to give their children the cereal to ward off their base desires. The Victorian era was filled with anti-masturbation devices people bought for their children, everything from chastity devices to mittens their hands were tied into. The poor kids had the fear of God instilled in them that blindness or insanity or at the very least hair on their palms awaited them if they dared touch themselves.
I Touch Myself – Even today not many parents act properly if they catch their children touching themselves, many create a lifelong trauma by their reactions. I have had men tell me they feel ashamed and embarrassed they masturbate, I ask them, do you feel guilty if you are tired? Do you feel guilty if you are thirsty? No? Then why do you feel guilty for needing a physical release, it’s the same thing really. People are horny to perpetuate the species, but not everyone is going to have a partner around at all times to help them out, most won’t, so it’s natures way of allowing us said release, it’s as insane to feel guilty for masturbating as it is to feel guilt over thirst.
Let’s All Masturbate – People need to come around and change the way they think. I consider myself an advocate of masturbation now, and phone sex ambassador. People should be encouraging their children that it’s fine, normal and healthy and with no shame, just privacy to be considered. Animals have it above us in many ways, animals feel no shame or guilt, they have the sense not to. Primates masturbate, as do dolphins and many other animals. I’m not saying we should be so at ease as to start doing it on the bench at the mall, but it should be no more embarrassing than needing to sneeze or blow your nose. Bodies are made for experiencing pleasure. Even though poor George Costanza’s mother would have us believe otherwise……
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