Tell Me You Love Me – People look for different sorts of interactions when they look online for fun partners. Most are just looking for a fun, good and casual time. Many are happy with one time encounters, like horny ships passing in the night. Others are looking for longer term pairings, where if they are horny they can go back to one another again and again, some such pairings can literally last for years. I was a bit shocked when recently my longest term phone partner of 5 years said I’d been in his life longer than any real life girlfriend he’d had.
I Want You – Some partners for phone sex, cyber sex or cam sex can get involved in each others lives to a degree, others are more secretive and without much real life info from their online partners. Worried about privacy or stalkers or any number of things infringing on their offline life. It can be awkward when one starts to feel more deeply than the other one does and in fact they can fall in love with their online partner. I’d heard many times about the “girlfriend experience”, but one said recently some girls were seeking a “boyfriend experience”. They want an online boyfriend to be there for them, tell them they love them, and sometimes seek offline real encounters as well, and sad to say most guys are only seeking online fun, and are not looking to carry things over into real life.
Online Better Than Real – Many times what we see online is the best of someone, the sexy, adorable side of someone and we grow to fall for them and idealize them. We don’t know what they are really like in their day to day life, we only know what they have chosen to reveal to us, and when all we see is the good and sexy part, it’s not that hard to fall for some of them. Sadly, some of us get hurt in such a situation. Some guys can get scared and flee when an online girl they play with gets “clingy”. I’ve heard this many times from guys. Many guys enjoy bringing an element of realism into especially phone sex play and talk about real life meetings, “Oh wouldn’t it be hot…”, yet when you buy into it and agree to go along, boy do some of them run scared. It’s cruel to lead someone on. Many girls and ladies are emotional sorts and can indeed fall for the online Casanova’s out there and get hurt when things don’t progress as we’d like them to.
What’s Love Got To Do With It – This week is Valentine’s Day yet again, the bane of existence for single people that have no one to hold, kiss, fuck or love them…For ones lucky enough to have someone though, be grateful. Every kiss, every hug, every touch or caress, be grateful for it. It can be taken away in a heartbeat. Their feelings can turn on a dime, and you’ll be left alone and crying and wanting.
Unbreak My Heart – Many of us don’t need to worry though, the unloved masses that find their way to naughty sites like this at the end of their rope of loneliness. Those who can only hope of finding someone to masturbate with online, via the phone, cyber or cam, that’s as good as some of us will be getting, so we’d best make the most of it. Then there are ones who technically have someone, but that partner has closed them off sexually and locked the door, so they are as alone as the rest of us.
Love Stinks – Christ, this isn’t a very happy column this week, is it…There is solace to be found, however temporary on the phone, cyber or cam, that is if you can find a partner that won’t hang up, sign off etc. on you when they cum leaving you hanging, selfish bitches and bastards though they are. If you jump in and have fun with someone too soon, this is the sort of behavior that can result. They are selfish and you are nothing but a masturbatory accessory to them to be taken out at their whim, nothing more. For some the only time they feel loved is during such an online encounter , no matter how brief or artificial, it’s the closest they will come to any sort of intimacy or affection from a person of the opposite sex. Happy Valentine’s Day indeed.
Please Don’t Hurt Me – So what do you do when one of your online fun partners gets more serious about you than you are about them or vice versa? It’s not a pleasant situation and I’ve been on both sides of this. Cam, phone sex and cybering are all important activities to the ones involved in them. Guys, and I assume gals, fall into different categories in our online play. Some are fun, like friends we play with, joke around with, but it never gets serious.
I Love You So Much – Friends like these though, it never gets intense and intensity, to some of us anyway, can be like that hit of heroin. Intensity is what makes us feel alive and crave more. Some partners can be like this, even ones that can be total nut jobs we’re better staying away from, they have a pull, a draw, and we can’t get enough. It’s a sad thing when one of you feels more deeply about the other, someone is bound to get hurt. Some want to meet in real life and when the other one doesn’t want to, you can feel very hurt and rejected by this person that has come to mean so much to you, and to them sadly they just view you as an online fun partner and nothing more.
It Felt So Real – I always remember one guy I chatted with that said he never phoned with a girl more than once because he “didn’t want them falling in love with him.” I recall laughing so hard thinking what a high opinion he had of himself to come to this bizarre way of thinking. Obviously he and many others wish to avoid drama, and emotional messiness which can sometimes result when feelings become involved. It is very, very cruel to ever lead anyone on and make them believe in any way something real and offline can result if you do not indeed feel that way, and several people I’ve known like to heighten things and make it seem like a possibility when in fact it’s just adding a further dimension of enjoyment to make it seem real.
You Broke My Heart – The more vulnerable party gets very badly emotionally crushed as a result. Be careful when someone hands you their heart. And sadly when things like this happen, and one gets hurt, you often lose the best masturbation partner you ever had because it can’t ever go back to being how it was before. The one doing the heartbreaking often feels badly they’ve hurt the other person, and the one pining away often feels so rejected and foolish they can’t enjoy the other person anymore.
Isn’t It Romantic – Valentine’s Day can be very romantic for one if they are part of a couple. If alone, not so much. It can actually make you bitter and angry! Looking at all the couples hand in hand and swooning over one another to the single person can make them pretty much go, “Barf, gag!” Lovely dovey is nice if you’re one of them, lonely if you’re not. Many that are couples they can still feel alone, you have no idea how many people I talk to that are part of a couple yet are “alone” in sexless relationship.
Love Is In The Air – If you are lucky enough to be in a healthy, satisfying relationship, do what you can to keep it that way and keep it fresh and exciting and filled with hot sex and spontaneity. There’s no need to spend lots of money, as some have been doing. Many say it’s becoming like Christmas, too commercialized and benefiting mainly greeting card companies, and florists and candy factories. A lovely dinner at home or out can be just fine for couples on a budget. There’s no need to spend a fortune and go into debt.
I Love You SO Much – Valentine’s Day has also been one of the most popular days for couples to get engaged. Love is just in the air surrounding that time and many of us hope Cupids arrow will hit our intended target. I recall once I made pink heart shaped sugar cookies for a guy I had a crush on and had my mom deliver them, oh God, I wince at such antics… I didn’t get him anyway, but I tried. I thought the cookies were appropriate and got the point across.
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