This is a guest blog submission by Climax Connection member, Random Writer.
Not Tonight – Handling rejection in the bedroom can be a difficult thing. Men often take it personally when a woman tells them they dont want to try something new. Neither party should take it personally when the other doesnt want to have a new experience. The other person may very well be nervous about the idea. Maybe they really do want to try anal sex. But, theyre just a little too freaked out about it to actually do it.
Please, Can We Do It? – You first need to understand why your partner said no. Its possible their “no” wasnt exactly what it sounded like it. It very well could be that they either arent ready or they arent in the mood right now. What do you do if your partner flat out says no? The first thing you dont do is freak out. You should figure out why theyre saying no to begin with. If it really is no and they have no interest, drop it. Dont beg or put on some kind of show. Just deal with the fact that they dont want to try something. You can hope that some day maybe theyll change their mind. If they dont, then move on.
No Means No – Dont be one of these people that keep begging and being an asshole. Take no for what it means and find something that theyll be up for. Boundaries are important in the bedroom. Its also important that your partner know that you respect their boundaries. Without this respect a relationship cant survive and thrive.
We all want our loved ones to have a gentle, and possibly romantic, start to their day, the following suggestions just might endear you even more to your beloved. Be creative and playful and thoughtful.
Breakfast In Bed – We don’t always have time these days to make ourselves a glorious, time consuming fancy breakfast, more often than not it’s cold cereal, a muffin or an energy bar and some coffee. How about making your lover some pancakes, or bacon and eggs, or French toast? It will be a lovely surprise, and a treat from what they usually get. What a decadent way to start your day!
Plans For A Surprise Date – Has your lover mentioned how much they’d like to see a concert that’s coming, or a museum exhibit? Wave some tickets under their nose and tell them you’ve planned a fun evening out that they can then look forward to, whether it’s that night, or two weeks from tonight.
Surprise Oral Sex – Most guys wake up with morning wood, why not take advantage and suckle on his manly bits as he opens his eyes and greets the day. Not many guys are going to be unhappy with this morning surprise! About a half hour before he’s due to wake up, slide under the covers, and if he sleeps nude, it won’t be too difficult, if he sleeps with boxers on, just be slow and careful not to wake him so you can be in the middle before he knows what’s happening.
Ride ‘Em Cowboy – Not wanting oral in the morning? If he’s got a woody, why not straddle him and lower yourself down onto him and he can wake up with you riding him. All of this depends of course on how sound a sleeper he is, hopefully you can get into it before he awakens and give him the ride of his life!
Splish Splash – If your lover has already awakened, surprise them in the shower and have some hot, steamy sex with the hot water pounding over the two of you, what an invigorating way to begin the day! Help soap each other up, then bend over and let the good times roll!
Can You Be True – One thing that always astounds me is when I hear some people telling me I chat with is how they are exclusive to a phone sex partner, or cam sex partner online. Not all people are like this certainly, but some are. Then one of them meets someone else to play with and the one they were playing with feels hurt and cheated on. I think it’s very unrealistic to expect another person you’re having online fun with to remain faithful and not play with others if they are playing with you. Variety is a good thing and should be explored.
Do You Love Me – One thing about online fun is sometimes one partner gets more attached than the other one. So it can be extra hard if they are to find out they are being cheated on with someone else, and if there’s one thing about online sex chat sites, it’s that they are like living soap operas come to life. People cheating on others, players, ladies men, sluts, villains! The cast of characters on a chat site is very much like the soaps. Long lost characters reappearing, heartbreakers, secrets. Monogamy is difficult enough in real life, maybe the swingers and ones into having an open relationship have the right idea. Enjoy everyone you wish to.
Monogamy = Monotony – For many people this holds very true and no matter how much they may love their partner, they simply have no plans to be faithful towards them. They might be able to hide it well or be discreet, but they are simply not going to do without the variety they crave. So for online partners, it’s even more easy to play the field since no risk of disease or pregnancy, so you can literally have phone sex or cyber sex with hundreds of people and have no worries. So play the field and enjoy!
Tell Me You Love Me – People look for different sorts of interactions when they look online for fun partners. Most are just looking for a fun, good and casual time. Many are happy with one time encounters, like horny ships passing in the night. Others are looking for longer term pairings, where if they are horny they can go back to one another again and again, some such pairings can literally last for years. I was a bit shocked when recently my longest term phone partner of 5 years said I’d been in his life longer than any real life girlfriend he’d had.
I Want You – Some partners for phone sex, cyber sex or cam sex can get involved in each others lives to a degree, others are more secretive and without much real life info from their online partners. Worried about privacy or stalkers or any number of things infringing on their offline life. It can be awkward when one starts to feel more deeply than the other one does and in fact they can fall in love with their online partner. I’d heard many times about the “girlfriend experience”, but one said recently some girls were seeking a “boyfriend experience”. They want an online boyfriend to be there for them, tell them they love them, and sometimes seek offline real encounters as well, and sad to say most guys are only seeking online fun, and are not looking to carry things over into real life.
Online Better Than Real – Many times what we see online is the best of someone, the sexy, adorable side of someone and we grow to fall for them and idealize them. We don’t know what they are really like in their day to day life, we only know what they have chosen to reveal to us, and when all we see is the good and sexy part, it’s not that hard to fall for some of them. Sadly, some of us get hurt in such a situation. Some guys can get scared and flee when an online girl they play with gets “clingy”. I’ve heard this many times from guys. Many guys enjoy bringing an element of realism into especially phone sex play and talk about real life meetings, “Oh wouldn’t it be hot…”, yet when you buy into it and agree to go along, boy do some of them run scared. It’s cruel to lead someone on. Many girls and ladies are emotional sorts and can indeed fall for the online Casanova’s out there and get hurt when things don’t progress as we’d like them to.
Isn’t It Romantic – Valentine’s Day can be very romantic for one if they are part of a couple. If alone, not so much. It can actually make you bitter and angry! Looking at all the couples hand in hand and swooning over one another to the single person can make them pretty much go, “Barf, gag!” Lovely dovey is nice if you’re one of them, lonely if you’re not. Many that are couples they can still feel alone, you have no idea how many people I talk to that are part of a couple yet are “alone” in sexless relationship.
Love Is In The Air – If you are lucky enough to be in a healthy, satisfying relationship, do what you can to keep it that way and keep it fresh and exciting and filled with hot sex and spontaneity. There’s no need to spend lots of money, as some have been doing. Many say it’s becoming like Christmas, too commercialized and benefiting mainly greeting card companies, and florists and candy factories. A lovely dinner at home or out can be just fine for couples on a budget. There’s no need to spend a fortune and go into debt.
I Love You SO Much – Valentine’s Day has also been one of the most popular days for couples to get engaged. Love is just in the air surrounding that time and many of us hope Cupids arrow will hit our intended target. I recall once I made pink heart shaped sugar cookies for a guy I had a crush on and had my mom deliver them, oh God, I wince at such antics… I didn’t get him anyway, but I tried. I thought the cookies were appropriate and got the point across.
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